Ask Amy: This is a no-brainer in my opinion

Trust your gut, lady. You love your sister and you don't trust her boyfriend. And why would you expose your young child to an illicit, shack-up, temporary relationship anyway?

She [sister] has now met a “new” guy, and much to our dismay he quit his job and she has been supporting him for about a year. He has since gotten a part-time job and is taking courses to better himself.

However, he is temperamental and often loses it in our presence. My sister says his temper is short-lived and that he is working on it. A few times he has verbalized little digs at my kids when he does not approve of their behavior and I’ve let it pass because we don’t see them very often

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Ask Amy: Sketchy boyfriend worries family members - The Washington Post

The mighty queens of Freeville

Our bookclub meets tonight and we will be enjoying together a great read--The Mighty Queens of Freeville by Amy Dickinson. Amy replaced Ann Landers as "Ask Amy"--and after giving advice to others based on experience and small town values, she collected the snippets and pieces of her own life and put them in this delightful book. Although each chapter has a theme and could stand alone, Amy wanders in and out of her marriage, divorce, her parents' divorce, child rearing, location, age, church, house and career but manages to hold it all together. It's an adventure just following her train of thought.

I just clicked over and looked at her Feb. 1 "Ask Amy" column. Yup. Women are still dumb, after all these years. And I don't mean Amy. They still move in with a boyfriend when they have a primary responsibility to a child; they still can't come up with a put down for a fresh, married man. Don't want to lose the friendship. Duh! Doubt that is his concern.

Read the book. I recommend it. You don't have to be divorced or a single parent to get a lot out of it, but if you are, you'll love it even more.