If I get dementia, by Anonymous

This was recently posted on Facebook. It's always a sobering reminder. It seems every month or so I see someone who is acting a little differently.  So perhaps it's time for understanding. . .

“If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original places.
If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love... “

Copy and paste in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia/alzheimer's.....

We could all do more

Yesterday in Bible study, Pastor Jeff mentioned that if all Christians contributed a tithe, there would be no need for government programs. The average, he said, is 2%.
 
Our niece Joan, who is one of the most compassionate, level headed women I know (teaches first grade) mentioned on Facebook yesterday:

"So a 10 year old girl rang the door bell selling hand drawn pictures for $.50. Taking a minute to inquire why they were trying to sell the pictures, we learned that grandma and grandpa didn’t have any food and there are four children staying there. Packed a sack from my pantry and freezer took down to their house and then made a Walmart run. Sometimes we need to take a minute and listen, and find out the needs of others."

Indeed. Yet I also think it's a great idea that the grandchildren wanted to chip in and help and chose the only way they knew.