Checking the Internet for an old friend

 Today I was cleaning out a drawer and found a stack of papers with old addresses.  In the stack was a 1987 letter from a friend I was intensely involved with in 1986. She lived in Upper Arlington, and although our children didn't date or even run in the same circle, they knew each other and went to the same high school. She had moved to Texas, so it was a catch-up letter with a 22 cent stamp and she promised to stay in touch.  Obviously, we didn't, because I hadn't thought of her in years.  So I of course turned to the internet.  She had a double surname, hyphenated with her husband's, which made the search easier. I found her professional activities and position in several places, the last being Washington. She was listed as a marriage counselor and other specialties, although I don't think she was a professional when I knew her. I recall she was getting some sort of accreditation for addiction counseling.  I looked at her photo (sort of looked like her), and in the final site I found she was using only her maiden name.  Still, I can't imagine she's still working at age 83--I don't know how old some of these web sites are, but the last one I could find had a 2020 blog which referred to the pandemic and the mental problems it was causing.  These problems for which one might need counseling were listed under her name:

Addictions
Abandonment and Rejection Issues
Abuse – Sexual, Emotional or Physicial [sic]
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Alcohol Abuse
Anger Management
Anxiety and Panic
Bipolar Disorder
Depression
Codependency
Family of Origin Issues
Inaction/Indecision
Life Issues/Transitions
Low Self Worth
Martial and Relationship Issues
Obsessive/Compulsive Issues
Parenting Issues
Post Traumatic Stress
Spiritual Issues
Stress Management
Trauma
Workplace Issues

This is not the kind of work I would want to take home every night--not at 83.  I'll keep looking.  I did find an e-mail address.

I also found a letter from 1983 from a friend who'd been through a divorce.  Too bad I couldn't have gotten them together--the counselor and the grieving ex-husband.

My summer of 1958, part 3

What does an 18 year old do all day while living on a farm with her grandparents who aren’t thrilled to have her “help?” See Part 1 and Part 2 for the story about why I was there and what the farm was like.

The diary I kept that summer reveals a lot of cooking and cleaning, certainly more than I do now. Also some gardening—surprise—didn’t remember that at all!  Although I thought they were rather set in their ways and not too friendly then, 60 years later rereading the diary, I’m amazed and admiring at their flexibility and good humor at my housekeeping abilities.

June 1: “The food situation was bad.  Bacon and cold baloney are the only meats in the house. For some reason there are about 2 doz. lemons.  I fixed an orange and banana fruit dish and mixed some peas and potatoes for something hot—and also a meat sandwich.” Note:  when I was a child I thought eating baloney sandwiches at grandma's house was a wonderful treat since my mother never made them.

June 2: “We had scrambled eggs for breakfast, chicken a la king, biscuits, pineapple-cottage cheese salad and tapioca for dinner (noon) and “left-over loaf” and a mixture of green vegetables and fruit salad and tapioca-applesauce.”

June 3: “I mixed up some apricot-buttermilk  bread and put that in the oven at 7:30 a.m. I fixed grandpa and me soft boiled eggs and we all had mixed fruit.  They seem to enjoy fresh fruit in most any type of combination. . . For dinner I fixed hot dogs with bacon, corn and fruit with the fresh bread. . . I bought $10.84 worth of groceries—12 boxes of Jello and 2 puddings to make sure we wouldn’t run out for awhile.  For supper I fixed liver, boiled potatoes, orange-carrot-banana Jello salad and bread.” (My parents showed up around 8 p.m., I made coffee and Dad and I talked in the kitchen) “ and he sure liked that bread I made.”

June 4: I fixed pancakes for breakfast; they might have tasted better if the skillet were  not so rusty. I fixed minute steaks, beans, orange Jello salad and bread pudding for dinner (noon). . . for supper we had soup.

June 5: “The oatmeal I made for breakfast tasted like paste. . . macaroni and cheese for dinner—not much better than the oatmeal. . . soup for supper.

June 7: “I dusted some before breakfast—we had cereal, eggs and juice. . .[ate lunch in Dixon]  For supper I fixed liver, mashed potatoes, tossed salad, relish plate, and strawberry shortcake.  I used the good dishes and really had fun, but what a clean-up job..  After dishes were over I tried to make a strawberry cream pie, but it didn’t work!”

June 9: A reversal of meals--onion soup and baloney sandwiches for dinner and meat loaf, cabbage slaw and melon for supper.

June 10: Oatmeal for breakfast; hamburgers, corn creole and pear salad for dinner; fruit plate for supper with custard.

June 11: Ham, asparagus, cabbage salad and custard.  Soup, sandwiches and Jello for supper.

June 12:  Grandpa's birthday.  I baked a date cake for him, "a major project." Lima bean casserole. Took some cake to the neighbors in the evening.

June 13: Made out a menu and schedule for next week. Chicken pot pie for dinner; meat plate, potatoes & peas and tomatoes and banana bread for supper.

June 16: Hamburgers, mashed potatoes & gravy, tossed salad and blackberry pie for dinner.

June 20: Baked a coffee cake which didn't turn out, so I put it in Jello. Creamed ham and rice for dinner; hotdogs, corn and Jello for supper.  Decided to quit, but had a long talk with Grandma and we worked things out.

June 24: Baked a raisin pie; baked chicken for supper and salmon for dinner (noon) trying to use up food due to refrigerator repair.

June 26: I baked all morning (complained to diary they weren't appreciative). Home made rolls, strawberry parfait, deviled eggs, asparagus and tuna cakes.  Baked pinwheel cookies, ate 10, and sent the rest to my boyfriend in Minnesota. Supper was creamed dried beef and peas on hot rolls.

June 27: Baked rolls for breakfast and made cocoa. Macaroni and cheese for dinner, corn bread and creamed chicken for supper. 

June 30: Cleaned out the kitchen cupboards; washed plastic bags. Pork chops, baked potatoes, corn and apricot tarts for dinner

July 2: Hamburgers, tossed salad, fruit for dinner and potato salad, tomato slices, beets and rhubarb parfait for supper.

July 3: Cess pool backed up into the basement. Liver, asparagus, corn and fruit for dinner.

July 4: Baked a cherry pie, meat loaf, baked beans, fresh rolls.  Salad and soup for supper.

July 11: Fried chicken, lima beans, dressing, cranberry sauce, and crumb cake. Made Henny Penny muffins (uses left over chicken in batter) for supper, then baked a peach-butterscotch pie for the neighbors' anniversary.

I didn’t note in my diary if these menus were my choice or theirs, but reading them over in the following weeks I see a lot of hot dogs, liver and asparagus—which it seems I would go out and cut stalks along the lane. And they were a generation that loved Jello—one of the first convenience foods of the 20th century. Rereading the meals, it seems like a lot of food and they were probably not used to that.

The cleaning I mention makes me wonder how they felt about that—true, they couldn’t do a lot, and dust would blow in from the fields, but if someone came in my house and immediately started dusting everything would I be pleased or insulted?

June 3: “I took down the curtains in my room, washed them and the windows, dusted the halls and stairsteps and ran the sweeper.  Every time I pumped a pail of water I felt guilty—but it does my muscles good even if the water supply is low.” There wasn’t a washing machine so I assume I hand washed the curtains.  I always wrote about washing dishes right after a meal and what time I finished, because I think Mother warned me not to leave any dirty dishes around (not sure it was bugs, mice, or Grandma’s preference).

June 4: “I cleaned out the bread cupboard before breakfast and then had my coffee while I listened to the radio.  **This “revolution” in France seems a long way off from the tranquility of the farm.” . . . in the shed “I found the clippers and decided to try my hand at sharpening them on the old wheel.  I’m not much of a bush clipper, but I attacked the job with unusual pep and concern.  Well, at least we can see the bird bath now from the dining room. . . After dishes I ran the dust mop around and swept a few rugs with the broom.” It seems Grandma wouldn’t let me run the vacuum cleaner which was the whole house kind with tubes built into the walls. I mentioned it several times in the diary, with no explanation why.

June 5:  “I spent most of the morning sewing up the hem in Grandma’s navy blue slip and mending a pillow.   . . In the afternoon we all went to Ashton to look at some cattle Dale wanted to buy, and they finally decided on 89 head. . . After cleaning up the supper dishes I cut a fresh bouquet.”

June 6: I put on an old shirt “and a pair of peddle pushers and went out to the garden for lovely 2 hours of sweat and dirt.  I took my good old time about spading the garden—mixed it with a little tool shed browsing and knife sharpening. . . When I finished my “garden” looked like a fresh grave, but I was happy.”

June 9: “After supper I planted tomatoes and wrote letters."

June 10: "started in on the filthy stove.  The mouse dirt was really thick and there were old nests behind the stove.  I put clean paper in the drawers and put the pans and stuff in them."

June 11: Scrubbed the bathroom floors. Dusted 4 rooms, mopped the kitchen floor and washed the two porch doors. Scraped the paint off the dog door stop.

June 17: Cleaned the silverware and dusted my room and the two west bedrooms. I wrote that I was an intrusion on their privacy and they never said thank you.

June 19: Walked to town after supper, but the lane was like quicksand so it took longer.  On the way back I spoke Spanish and sang hymns. (This sounds sort of pious, but I think it was boredom.) I had also walked in on the 18th after supper to the Ives Drug store, and because it was getting dark by 9 I cut through a freshly cultivated bean field and snagged my dress on barbed wire, was wearing sandals, so was a mess when I got back, but "saved 10 minutes."

June 20: Cleaned dining and living rooms, swept the pantry, clipped the grass on the west fence--was still pumping water.

June 27: Cleaned the dining room and 2 living rooms and mopped the porch; caught a ride with a neighbor to Ashton to shop for groceries. 

**I have no recollection of a revolution in France in the summer of 1958, so I had to look that one up.  And sure enough, there was one due to the Algerian War of Independence (1954–62) which led to collapse of the Fourth Republic and its replacement by the Fifth Republic led by Charles de Gaulle who returned to power after a twelve-year absence (Wikipedia). So there I was sipping coffee and clipping bushes in Illinois and not paying attention while deGaulle was forming a new cabinet in France.  Without TV and the Internet we just had no idea. . . 

Downsizing for seniors

Everyone I know has this problem.  Stuff.  Except maybe my cousin.  She moves too often to accumulate much. Today I stopped at Half-Price Books and bought. . . are you ready for this. . . .Bill and Hillary paper dolls.  At $2.00 it was such a bargain.  I also bought yet another How to draw book.  We must have at least 5.  If books could tell you how to draw or paint, I'd be a famous artist.

We actually thought we were downsizing when we bought this condo in 2001.  And we were, sort of. The problem is it actually has an attic over the garage and storage space in the basement, two storage areas we didn't have in our home on Abington.

Here's advice from AARP on what to get rid of.

Know anyone who collects paper dolls?

Cleaning out my office--list of books

List of books

Great religions of the world (National Geographic, 1971)

Ancient-future faith; rethinking evangelicalism (Webber, Baker, 1999)

The Christian calendar; complete guide to the seasons of the Christian year (Merriam, 1974)

Complete guide to Bible versions (Tyndale, 1991, pb.)

Renovation of the heart (Willard, Navpress, 2002)

What the Bible is all about (Henrietta Mears, Regal, 1966, pb.)

The challenge of today (1st state convention Methodist men, Columbus, OH, March 1915)

Infant baptism and adult conversion (Hallesby, Augsburg, 1926 pb.)

Brochures: God’s man of faith (Luther); Small catechism (Luther); Why Jesus have his life for us; Women of the Bible; About the sacrament of baptism; Abstinence; Enriching your marriage; The servant as Leaders (Robert Greenleaf);

Jesus and his times (Reader’s Digest, 1987)

After Jesus (Reader’s Digest, 1992)

I and thou (Buber, Touchstone, 1970 , pb)

The happy Christian (Murray, Nelson, 2015, pb)

The Lord’s Prayer (Noyes, First Congregational, Columbus, 1962, pb)

History, criticism and Faith (Inter-varsity, 1976 pb)

A book of prayers for boys and girls (Neumann, Wartburg, 1943)

My prayer book (Concordia, 1957)

The art of reading scripture (David and Hays, Eerdmans, 2003 pb)

Treasures from the Greek New Testament ;Wuest’s word studies (Wuest, Eerdmans, 1941 pb)

A brief story of the Augsburg Confession (Concordia, 1930, pb)

Devotions and prayers of Martin Luther (Baker, 1965, pb)

Women in the Bible helpful friends (Latham, Broadman, 1979)

Encounter with books; a guide to Christian reading (Inter-Varsity, 1971, pb.)

Blog (Hewitt, Nelson, 2005)

Liberty and tyranny (Levin, Threshold, 2009)

The new thought police (Bruce, Forum, 2001)

Right for a reason (Chicks on the right, Sentinel, 2014)

A simple Christmas (Huckabee, Sentinel, 2009)

Power to the people (Ingraham, Regnery, 2007)

My grandfather’s son (Thomas, Harper Collins, 2007)

Extraordinary, ordinary people (Rice, Crown, 2010)

Arguing with idiots (Beck, Threshold, 2009)

Culturally incorrect (Parsley, Nelson, 2007)

Paradise suite/Bobos in Paradise (Simon & Schuster, 2011)

Countdown to the Apocalypse (Jeffress, Faith Words, 2015, pb)

The bookshop, the gate of angels, the blue flower (Fitzgerald, Everyman’s library 247, 2001)

Glenn Beck’s Common sense (Threshold, 2009, pb)

Overton Window (fiction) (Threshold, 2010)

Flight Behavior (Kingsolver, HarperCollings, 1st ed., 2012)

Black Orchid (Harper, Signet, 1996) autographed by author

The book thief (Zusak, Knopf, 2005 pb)

The notebook (Sparks, Warner, 1996)

The Christmas Letters (Smith, Algonquin, 1996)

When I am an old woman I shall wear Purple (Papier-Mache Press, 1987,pb)

I am becoming the woman I’ve wanted (Papier-Mache Press, 1994, pb)

Women of words (Bukovinsky, Running Press, 1994)

Old age is not for sissies (Peter Pauper Press, 1989)

Making your own days (Koch, Scribner, 1998)

A dictionary of textile terms (Dan River, 1967, pb)

Women’s Magazines 1940-1960 (Bedford, 1998, pb)

Women writers at work, (Plimpton, 1989, pb)

So your husband’s gone to war! (Gorham, Doubleday 1942) with book cover, rare.

It was on fire when I lay down on it (Fulghum, Villard, 1989)

Sea biscuit (Hillenbrand, Ballentine, 2001)

On writing well (Zinsser, Harper, 1988)

Reading Lolita in Tehran (Nafisi, Random House, 2004)

Writing down the bones (Goldberg, Shambhala, 1986)

A book lover’s journal (for recording titles read) (Addison-Wesley, 1986)

A handbook of literary terms (Citadel, 1966 pb)

Concise Oxford dictionary of literary terms (Bladick, Oxford, 1990)

Dearest friend (Withey, Touchstone, 1981)

Life at the speed of Light (Venter, Viking, 2013)

Courage to be rich (Orman, Riverhead, 1999)

Healthwise for life, (4th ed. Healthwise, 2000)

Family guide to natural medicine (Reader’s Digest, 1993)

It’s always the heart (Constantine, Westbow, 2014, pb.)

I love horses and ponies, over 50 breeks (Scholastic, 2011)

New Yorker book of cat cartoons (Knopf, 1990)

Simply Divine (Harris, Prima, 1996)

The Desperate housewives cookbook (Hyperion, 2016)

Socialized history of the United States (Vannest, Scriber’s, 1934)

My Country, civics textbook (Turkington, Ginn, 1923)

Added to the pile on June 5

The I hate to housekeep book (Peg Bracken, 1962)
Handbook of medical library practice, 4th ed. vol. 1 (MLA, 1982)
Introduction to reference work, vol. 1, basic information sources (Katz, 1974, 2d ed.)
Emily Post's etiquette (Elizabeth L. Post, 12th rev. ed,1969)
Chronicle of America,(1990?)
The practical guide to practically everthing (Bernstein and Ma, Random House, 1995)
A pictorial encyclopedia of the oriental arts, China (2 vol. slip case, Crown, 1969)
Rural England (Mercer Puttnam, Macdonald Queen Anne Press, 1988)
The face of rural America (1976 Yearbook of Agriculture)
Off the beaten path (Reader's Digest, 1987)

War and Peace (Leo Tolstoy, Modern Library)
Poems, plays and prose of Pushkin (Modern Library c1936)
Anna Karenina (Leo Tolstoy, Modern Library, 1950)
Russian short stories 19th century (Oxford, 1953)
Tolstoy selections (Oxford, 1959)
Ivan Goncharov Oblamov (Everyman's, 1959)
Golovlyov Family (Everyman's, 1955)

Alka-Seltzer tips

Now look what you can do with Alka-Seltzer.

Alka-Seltzer is an effervescent antacid and pain reliever first marketed by the Dr. Miles Medicine Company. It was developed by Maurice Treener, head chemist at Miles, in Elkhart, Indiana. Alka-Seltzer is marketed for relief of minor aches, pains, inflammation, fever, headache, heartburn, sour stomach, indigestion, and hangovers, while neutralizing excess stomach acid.  It was launched in 1931. Wikipedia

1. Clean a toilet. Drop in two Alka-Seltzer tablets, wait twenty minutes, brush and flush. The citric acid and effervescent action clean vitreous china.

2. Clean a vase. To remove a stain from the bottom of a glass vase or cruet, fill with water and drop in two Alka-Seltzer tablets.

3. Polish jewelry. Drop two Alka-Seltzer tablets into a glass of water and immerse the jewelry for two minutes.

4. Clean a thermos bottle. Fill the bottle with water, drop in four Alka-Seltzer tablets, and let soak for an hour (or longer, if necessary).

5. Unclog a drain. Clear the sink drain by dropping three Alka-Seltzer tablets down the drain followed by a cup of Heinz White Vinegar. Wait a few minutes, then run the hot water.

Magic Bathroom cleaner

I haven’t tried this, but wanted to save the recipe, and putting it in the blog is easier than printing it.

What you need:
-1 Professional Spray Bottle (it is worth the extra $1, trust me!)
-8 oz. Distilled White Vinegar
-4 oz. Lemon Juice
-2 oz. Liquid Soap (I use Dawn)
-2 tsp. Baking Soda
-10 oz water
To Mix:
Funnel in all the ingredients, squeeze out the suds, screw on your cap and go make your bathroom sparkle!
To Use:
Clear the surfaces, use toilet tissue to wipe off any dirt, hair, spilled liquids, etc.  Using the lightest spray setting, spray down everything- sink, counter, mirror, faucets, tub and the whole toilet, inside and out. I let it sit while I sweep the floor. I then use a microfiber cloth to wipe down the surfaces from the cleanest to the dirtiest. In our house that means mirror, faucets, sink, tub/shower and then the toilet. Be sure to rinse out the tub/shower really well so it isn't slippery.
Stubborn stains in your tub?
Whether its a dirt ring at the top or dirt stuck in the textured bottom, this will solve your problem! Spray down the problem area heavily, and then using a sponge with a non-scratch scrubber, scrub in a circular motion. Again, rinse very well and then put on your shades because its going to be shiny.

Another stain remover recipe

1 tsp. Dawn dishwashing detergent
3-4 tablespoons of hydrogen peroxide
couple tablespoons of baking soda.
Scrub on with a scrubbing brush.

 

Time to clean the House. . . and the Senate

If they can’t stand up to the executive branch then how can they be the representative branch? They are supposed to be representing US, as in We the People.  Obamacare didn’t get one Republican vote; 83% of Americans disagreed with the concept; it is so complex and unwieldy that it will take years to figure it out with law suits, lawyers, and new cottage industries. Obamacare is even more unpopular now than when it was passed, but the Democrats have the gall to lie and claim it is an achievement.

Teach your children well

At a party last night I met a 23 year old college graduate, employed, about to move in a house owned by a family member. Her big concern? She doesn't know how to clean. Either her former roommates, parents, or a cleaning service did it. I turned to her father and asked how could this happen. And he just shrugged. It's not that hard if you start them young. Pick up toys. Hang up clothes. Wipe up spills. Wash and dry dishes. Put them away. Dust. Vacuum. It's a life skill. I told her she was welcome to come here and follow me around--I'm certainly no fastidious housekeeper, but I could show her a few things. Another neighbor offered to give her some rags. "What do you do with them," she asked. Then she said she also didn't know how to garden--so I was a bit more sympathetic. I don't either. "You mean like tomatoes and beans?" I asked. "No, weeds and grass." I suggested she hire a neighborhood kid to mow the lawn.

She definitely needs Flylady.