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Co-habiting not good preparation for marriage—but didn’t we already know that?

Although I think co-habiting is not good preparation for marriage, this report doesn't cite enough sources, and some are old. That's not unusual for social science reporting. Although the study on differences of income was one I hadn't seen (co-habiting men earn less over a life time than married men, and often less than their housemate). My personal thought is the "finances" angle for co-habiting is phony; women are hoping for a transition to something more permanent and men are hoping for a few more months/years of less permanence. It is always about commitment, and about half don't want that so they settle for something less. I've never talked to a married woman who co-habited before marriage who said in hindsight that it was good for the marriage, even those that last. Small sample, of course.

http://dailysignal.com/2015/02/13/5-facts-cohabitation-may-not-know/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=thf02132015

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25267281

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3599792?sid=21105873629393&uid=2&uid=3739256&uid=4&uid=3739840

Dinner attire at Downton

Today we’d be lucky if they just pulled up their jeans, covered the butt-crack  and took off the baseball cap.

An old fashioned movie, Old Fashioned

Despite the snow and some white outs on the way to the theater, our St. Valentine's date worked well. We saw "Old Fashioned" at Lennox 24 near the OSU campus then had dinner out. The movie truly is old fashioned, with gorgeous cinematography filmed in Tuscawarus County, Ohio, in Oct. and Nov. 2011. In fact, I'd say NE Ohio had a supporting role. The opening in theaters was held back to coincide with the opening of “50 shades of Grey.”  It truly is the antidote to the 50 shades movie.

Rik Swartzwelder wrote, directed and acted in the film. (He's from New Philadelphia, Ohio, now lives in California). He plays Clay, a guy who not only owns an antique store in the college town where he has a not so lovely past, but old fashioned ideas about who he will marry and what their courtship should be. He meets Amber, the free spirit type, who reminds me of some of the loopy 1970s film characters--on the run when a problem comes up, 3 credit hours from her degree, a cat lady, odd fashion taste and a horrible marriage in her past. These two people, one who can't forgive himself for his past, and one who flees her past, fall in love. There are interesting supporting sub-plots, like Clay's buddies, and Amber's co-workers at the flower shop. This is not an overtly Christian film, but has Christian values, and you can leave the theater without having heard a single swear word even though the story line includes some crude characters in its backstory.

As we left the theater my husband said it had a "168" feel (short films with a Biblical theme organized by John David Ware) so I looked that up and see that Rik Swartzwelder has worked with Ware (who grew up in our church) in workshops for writers and directors that is also a part of the 168 project.

We suggested the film to our waitress--that she take her boyfriend. She said she didn't have a boyfriend and would see if she could get a group of her friends to go. And that's just the crowd that should see this movie. Searching singles tired of the hook-up culture of meaningless sex and moving on.

http://www.timesreporter.com/article/20111001/NEWS/310019937

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Fashioned_(film)

http://www.fandango.com/oldfashioned_176952/moviereviews

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ptxW2lhzbVQ

Bursitis hip pain

“Bursitis of the hip is inflammation of one or both of the bursae (plural of bursa) found between the hip bone and the muscles on the outside of the hip. A bursa is a fluid-filled sac that cushions and lubricates areas of the body where friction is likely to occur. “ Link

I still have some, but much better than a year ago.  I don’t do a lot of stairs (2-3 years ago I was doing stairs for exercise), but can do it almost pain free.  I had physical therapy last spring, and continue to do a few minutes of those stretching and strengthening exercises most days.  I’ve lost 15 pounds, which really help, and am exercising on a stationary bike. If I wear high heels it is usually only an hour or two on Sunday. Ice packs are really useful if you do much exercise.  Cuts the inflammation.

“To prevent and ease hip pain during work, play, or daily activities:

• Reach and stay at a healthy weight.
• Wear well-cushioned shoes, and avoid high heels.
• Walk up and down stairs one at a time, leading with your strong leg when you go up stairs or curbs, and with your weaker or sore leg when you go down.
• Warm up before activities.
• Avoid activities that make one side of the pelvis higher than the other, such as running in only one direction on a track or hiking or doing yard work sideways on a slope. Keep your hips level.
• Sleep on your uninjured side with a pillow between your knees, or on your back with pillows beneath your knees.
• Stretch after an activity, when your muscles are warm.”

Pilates in Pink

I stopped at the Half Price book store yesterday and found this exercise DVD for $2.00 with the pink resistance band.  I’m watching it now, and think the warm up exercises for the arms and fingers are well worth the price.  I think this may be slightly different than the $10-15 DVD still available in stores, but I’m enjoying my bargain. Finding a good spot where I can see it from the floor will be challenging.  When I was getting therapy for my shoulder/rotator cuff injury about 15 years ago I had a set of bands.  However, once they develop a tiny hole, it’s all over.

Where is the outrage—4 murder victims

This morning on the news I heard about the video confession of Donald Hoffman who murdered viciously 4 people about a year ago in Bucyrus, Ohio. Not sure of the weapons--blunt force and strangulation were cited. He was on cocaine, don't know about the victims. But, I only mention this because there was no one gathered at his arraignment last year except the crying family members of the victims. No thousands holding candles or charging hate crimes for the White House and Department of Justice. In the photo, he looks like he could be the twin of the guy who killed the 3 in Chapel Hill. He also had a long history with the police and violent behavior. I don't recall any outrage over these 4 murders. Anyone else in Ohio, or Florida, California or Illinois remember this case?

One thing the killing of 3 young adult Muslims in Chapel Hill by a self proclaimed atheist proves to Americans is that Muslims really can rally, demonstrate and speak out against the unspeakable--but only from a very safe distance from ISIS and the Middle East wars. They have the free speech, religion and assembly protection offered by this country. So they really do have a voice in condemning evil.

It appears she didn’t like Bob Simon

“Simon’s so-called “reporting” consisted of lying about American boys on the front lines in Vietnam, lying about Israeli soldiers trying to protect their country, lying about an Israeli fence built to try to keep Islamic terrorists out of Israel so it would be harder for them to bomb coffee and pizza shops, bars, synagogues, and Passover Seders. Even in one of his few mildly decent reports, about persecuted Christians in the Middle East, Simon still took the opportunity to attack Israel, the one place in the region where Christians are actually safe. I would link to some of these “stories” as evidence, but I don’t want to lend the lies any credence. Search “YouTube” for Bob Simon and Israel and you’ll see.”

http://www.debbieschlussel.com/77169/bob-simon-anti-israel-self-hating-jew-who-also-lied-about-us-in-vietnam-rih/

About that Scott Walker response

OK. I'm out of the closet. I don't believe in evolution, never have, and even in elementary school that was all I was taught. There are just too many holes in this theory and huge gaps, plus we'd all be up to our eyeballs in all the missing fossil links for all the species. It's not hard to learn this stuff and pass the tests and become an associate professor at a major university. One day at a coffee shop in Lakeside I was chatting with a stranger who was a high school biology teacher--and a good one. He told me he had never bought into the lie of evolution. A friend who has a PhD in engineering told me that with enough heat he could turn peanut butter into a diamond. He doesn't believe in evolution either, but now has 2 PhDs, both in the sciences. Most people couldn't even explain the various theories (there are more than one) of evolution, but love to point fingers at those who can look around and see what happened.

http://www.icr.org/article/1175/221

Model makes history

Too bad making history doesn't make it any safer to have an extra copy of chromosome 21 since about 90% are aborted.

http://mic.com/articles/110550/meet-the-first-model-with-down-syndrome-to-walk-at-new-york-fashion-week

Can Bradley Manning be a real woman?

Bradley Manning is going to get his wish to be transitioned to a female on our tax dollar. He's the United States Army soldier who was convicted in July 2013 of violations of the Espionage Act and other offenses, and in our non PC language, he's a traitor. What if he told the Army he's always believed he was a Chinese man trapped in the body of a Caucasian and wanted surgery and resurfacing to complete the job--eye lids, eye fold, nose, lips, genitals, skin color, oral cavity, bone density, body hair, etc. And since he's always heard that Asians are so good at math and science, he wants the military to give him a college degree in physics. Sounds silly doesn't it? So are hormone treatments for a man who has decided he is now a woman after many years of being a man; plus it's insulting to women everywhere to think that all he needs are larger breasts and an amputation to be a real woman.

Stop editing yourself is this blind painter’s advice

There’re so many people saying, ‘Well, I can’t draw a straight line,’ or, ‘I can’t do this or that,’ and it’s interesting how, if you stop editing yourself–if you stop judging every little thing you do when it comes to art–you end up invariably being able to do way more than you thought. It seems like it’s the same way in life. When I lost my eyesight, I really thought everything was over because I already had epilepsy and all; but then thankfully, with the painting, I stopped thinking about it that way. I stopped editing everything I did, stopped worrying about the past or the future and just focused on being in the moment. Things got a lot better after that. I wish more people would do that, because they don’t realize that what they’re capable of is incredible.” John Bramblitt

https://usodep.blogs.govdelivery.com/2014/08/06/artist-sees-painting-as-a-way-of-life/

 

http://bramblitt.net/

This film is 10 years old, but shows how he has developed his art and skill. https://vimeo.com/5497828

Questions about health

One in twenty questions for Google concern health issues. "So starting in the next few days, when you ask Google about common health conditions, you’ll start getting relevant medical facts right up front from the Knowledge Graph. We’ll show you typical symptoms and treatments, as well as details on how common the condition is—whether it’s critical, if it’s contagious, what ages it affects, and more."  http://googleblog.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/health-info-knowledge-graph.html

“We worked with a team of medical doctors (led by our own Dr. Kapil Parakh, M.D., MPH, Ph.D.) to carefully compile, curate, and review this information. All of the gathered facts represent real-life clinical knowledge from these doctors and high-quality medical sources across the web, and the information has been checked by medical doctors at Google and the Mayo Clinic for accuracy.”

Happy Birthday, Mr. President

Evolution of trade deals

George Will insists Scott Walker will need to answer Yes to believing in evolution. (A question he got from a British twit when he was there on trade business.) Really? Why is that? Because Wisconsin teachers' unions acted like troglodytes in trying to hang on to their cushy benefits that were destroying small Wisconsin communities?

Racism and double standard at NBC

Brian Williams, white guy lies, hobnobs with celebrities and the president, and gets fired. Al Sharpton, black guy lies, causes riots and death of policemen, cheats on his taxes, hobnobs with celebrities and the president, and keeps his job.

http://newsbusters.org/blogs/ken-shepherd/2015/02/11/shouldnt-al-sharptons-lies-get-him-canned-msnbc-smoking-gun-asks

http://www.fireandreamitchell.com/2015/02/11/will-nbc-suspend-al-sharpton-brian-williams-fiasco/

http://thesmokinggun.com/documents/investigation/al-sharpton-lies-657391

Legalizing pot

I don't understand la la land states and politicians. They legalize pot which destroys brains cells and the center of pleasure making people dopey and stupid, but they outlaw vaping (inhale and exhale the vapor produced by an electronic cigarette with some nicotine in it) which from what I can see helps people wean themselves off cigarettes, but is more difficult to tax. Neither practice sounds beneficial, but pot has plenty of studies showing its harm, and there's very little research on vaping. I'm sticking with the tax theory.

50 shades of porn

For young adults and teens: "Fifty Shades of Grey is being released for Valentine’s Day, so you’ll think it’s a romance. Don’t fall for it. The movie is actually about a sick, dangerous relationship filled with physical and emotional abuse. It seems glamorous, because the actors are gorgeous, they have expensive cars and private planes, and Beyonce is singing. You might conclude that Christian and Ana are cool, and that even though their relationship is different, it’s acceptable.

Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated by a Hollywood studio. The people there just want your money; they have no concern whatsoever about you and your dreams." http://www.miriamgrossmanmd.com/an-open-letter-to-young-pe…/

President Obama’s big gay lie

There are several lies being told about Obama's gay lies (as revealed this week in David Axelrod's book). The big one (by Axelrod) is that it was justified because look at the progress gays have made during Obama's administration. Really? Reminds me of whites claiming the progress blacks made in the 60s was the result of their good will and beneficence. We'd be in the same place with McCain as president because this pot had been reaching a small boil for over 30 years. The next big lie is Obama was afraid he'd lose the support of black Christians if they knew he supported gay marriage. How many black men support marriage, period? The third big lie is that he "evolved" on the issue just in time for the 2012 election. I suspect he was going to be "outed" big time as some tried in 2008 if he didn't submit to the gay mafia.

http://www.truthrevolt.org/news/axelrod-obama-lied-nation-2008-about-his-view-gay-marriage

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