Friday, January 01, 2021

CRT training—Just say No

CRT used to be the cathode ray tube, that tube/screen that flickers in front of your face. Now it means critical race theory, and if you learned about it college or studied it even 5 years ago, you need to catch up, and realize you're getting slapped up the side of your head with a marketing campaign with a powerful brand. Your church, your school board, your employer may be trying to convert you to a new religion, one more fundamentalist than any you've experienced.

I don't agree with everything in this debate, particularly not the guy who thinks Trump is to blame for its rise because I watched it soar under Obama, and on the campuses, even in the 1990s. Much of it is Marxist based just substituting race for class. So be prepared. If people refuse to debate it calling you a racist (some CRT advocates consider "debate", personal responsibility, and free speech as white racist privilege), then you have a right to refuse to accept it and should object to it being taught to your children or your being forced to attend thinly veiled Marxist reeducation camps. It only benefits the self interest (and wallets) of the marketers.

https://youtu.be/ZuvhrXM3v7U

Child stars—what became of—Barry and Stan Livingston

To avoid watching ABC news in the kitchen during breakfast, my husband’s been watching MeTV channel that plays old reruns.  Since “My three sons” ran for 12 years (1960-1972), I’ve seen a lot of the cute little Barry Livingston (Ernie), who is adopted by the father in the series (Fred MacMurray) after the oldest son gets married and leaves the show in 1965.  That way they didn’t have to change the title.

During the lockdown I’ve seen a lot of movies and TV shows, and I’ve been wondering what became of the children on those shows, so I looked up these talented, cute kids.  Here’s Barry Livingston singing a song about his own adopted brother, Gene.

https://youtu.be/rsNzI8wzFkw

Of all the characters on the show, according to Wikipedia he’s the only one still acting.  Apparently, he also has a YouTube Channel and enjoys singing and composing. He says his parents had 3 sons, adopted 3, and they were also foster parents.

And here’s a YouTube (2012) about Stanley Livingston (Chip) who is Barry Livingston’s (Ernie) real life brother. Provides some insights into how the show and cast worked together. https://youtu.be/KsaIfBo0mc0

Barry and Stan talk about 4 generations watching their show (now on MeTV) https://youtu.be/spmkw59Xnl4

Thursday, December 31, 2020

Women who made a difference in 2020

Chloé Zhao has made the "Change Makers List: 30 women who saved entertainment in 2020." Zhao won the Golden Lion Award this year at the Venice Film Festival (the first woman in a decade to do so) for the new drama “Nomadland.” It's about Americans suffering from the economy (of a decade ago). I read the book. I wonder what they did to it?

From my blog:  Collecting My Thoughts: Book review “Nomadland by Jessia Bruder  "I'm about 1/3 finished, but I get the drift. Convince the readers there's something terribly wrong with the USA instead of the poor decisions, divorces, childhoods and investments of selected people interviewed for the book. So far, although the "great" recession of 2008 is noted as a cause for the white collar workers, the underlying factors in many of these cases are divorce, and/or an unhappy, abusive childhood that also included divorce, disruption, and frequent moves. I've been skimming or reading books like this for 4 decades. And since the so-called War on Poverty and the disintegration of households of married couples and families, the discussion doesn't get more positive, but the journalists/fabulists don't seem to catch on."

Communist retreads in the Biden adminitration?

We know that the Biden-Harris administration is Obama 2.0. We also know of some of Joe Biden's lucrative links to the Communist Party of China. Here's a list of Communists, Red Diaper Babies, and Marxists in Obama's Circle who influenced his development, thinking and presidency. "Obama Appointees in the Communist Orbit"  Unfortunately, not only are the media without morals, they are without curiosity.  Obama Appointees in the Communist Orbit (americanthinker.com)

John Brennan, Valerie Jarrett, David Axelrod, Susan Rice, David Maraniss, Frank Marshall Davis, Jeremiah Wright.

"The Obama administration colluded with Russian agents who produced the Steele Dossier. It was paid for by Clinton, but it was Obama's minions at the FBI, CIA, and White House who weaponized this Soviet disinformation against President Trump.

We are all victims of the Obama cabal's collusion with Russia — President Trump's voters and all Americans who believe in our free and fair election process." Karin McQuillan

Wednesday, December 30, 2020

What I Learned in the Peace Corps in Africa: Trump Is Right

By Karin McQuillan

Three weeks after college, I flew to Senegal, West Africa, to run a community center in a rural town. Life was placid, with no danger, except to your health. That danger was considerable, because it was, in the words of the Peace Corps doctor, "a fecalized environment."

In plain English: s--- is everywhere. People defecate on the open ground, and the feces is blown with the dust – onto you, your clothes, your food, the water. He warned us the first day of training: do not even touch water. Human feces carries parasites that bore through your skin and cause organ failure.

Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that a few decades later, liberals would be pushing the lie that Western civilization is no better than a third-world country. Or would teach two generations of our kids that loving your own culture and wanting to preserve it are racism.

Last time I was in Paris, I saw a beautiful African woman in a grand boubou have her child defecate on the sidewalk next to Notre Dame Cathedral. The French police officer, ten steps from her, turned his head not to see.

I have seen. I am not turning my head and pretending unpleasant things are not true.

Senegal was not a hellhole. Very poor people can lead happy, meaningful lives in their own cultures' terms. But they are not our terms. The excrement is the least of it. Our basic ideas of human relations, right and wrong, are incompatible.

As a twenty-one-year-old starting out in the Peace Corps, I loved Senegal. In fact, I was euphoric. I quickly made friends and had an adopted family. I relished the feeling of the brotherhood of man. People were open, willing to share their lives and, after they knew you, their innermost thoughts.

The longer I lived there, the more I understood: it became blindingly obvious that the Senegalese are not the same as us. The truths we hold to be self-evident are not evident to the Senegalese. How could they be? Their reality is totally different. You can't understand anything in Senegal using American terms.

Take something as basic as family. Family was a few hundred people, extending out to second and third cousins. All the men in one generation were called "father." Senegalese are Muslim, with up to four wives. Girls had their clitorises cut off at puberty. (I witnessed this, at what I thought was going to be a nice coming-of-age ceremony, like a bat mitzvah or confirmation.)

Sex, I was told, did not include kissing. Love and friendship in marriage were Western ideas. Fidelity was not a thing. Married women would have sex for a few cents to have cash for the market.

What I did witness every day was that women were worked half to death. Wives raised the food and fed their own children, did the heavy labor of walking miles to gather wood for the fire, drew water from the well or public faucet, pounded grain with heavy hand-held pestles, lived in their own huts, and had conjugal visits from their husbands on a rotating basis with their co-wives. Their husbands lazed in the shade of the trees.

Yet family was crucial to people there in a way Americans cannot comprehend.

The Ten Commandments were not disobeyed – they were unknown. The value system was the exact opposite. You were supposed to steal everything you can to give to your own relatives. There are some Westernized Africans who try to rebel against the system. They fail.

We hear a lot about the kleptocratic elites of Africa. The kleptocracy extends through the whole society. My town had a medical clinic donated by international agencies. The medicine was stolen by the medical workers and sold to the local store. If you were sick and didn't have money, drop dead. That was normal.

So here in the States, when we discovered that my 98-year-old father's Muslim health aide from Nigeria had stolen his clothes and wasn't bathing him, I wasn't surprised. It was familiar.

In Senegal, corruption ruled, from top to bottom. Go to the post office, and the clerk would name an outrageous price for a stamp. After paying the bribe, you still didn't know it if it would be mailed or thrown out. That was normal.

One of my most vivid memories was from the clinic. One day, as the wait grew hotter in the 110-degree heat, an old woman two feet from the medical aides – who were chatting in the shade of a mango tree instead of working – collapsed to the ground. They turned their heads so as not to see her and kept talking. She lay there in the dirt. Callousness to the sick was normal.

Americans think it is a universal human instinct to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It's not. It seems natural to us because we live in a Bible-based Judeo-Christian culture.

We think the Protestant work ethic is universal. It's not. My town was full of young men doing nothing. They were waiting for a government job. There was no private enterprise. Private business was not illegal, just impossible, given the nightmare of a third-world bureaucratic kleptocracy. It is also incompatible with Senegalese insistence on taking care of relatives.

All the little stores in Senegal were owned by Mauritanians. If a Senegalese wanted to run a little store, he'd go to another country. The reason? Your friends and relatives would ask you for stuff for free, and you would have to say yes. End of your business. You are not allowed to be a selfish individual and say no to relatives. The result: Everyone has nothing.

The more I worked there and visited government officials doing absolutely nothing, the more I realized that no one in Senegal had the idea that a job means work. A job is something given to you by a relative. It provides the place where you steal everything to give back to your family.

I couldn't wait to get home. So why would I want to bring Africa here? Non-Westerners do not magically become American by arriving on our shores with a visa.

For the rest of my life, I enjoyed the greatest gift of the Peace Corps: I love and treasure America more than ever. I take seriously my responsibility to defend our culture and our country and pass on the American heritage to the next generation.

African problems are made worse by our aid efforts. Senegal is full of smart, capable people. They will eventually solve their own country's problems. They will do it on their terms, not ours. The solution is not to bring Africans here.

We are lectured by Democrats that we must privilege third-world immigration by the hundred million with chain migration. They tell us we must end America as a white, Western, Judeo-Christian, capitalist nation – to prove we are not racist. I don't need to prove a thing. Leftists want open borders because they resent whites, resent Western achievements, and hate America. They want to destroy America as we know it.

As President Trump asked, why would we do that?

We have the right to choose what kind of country to live in. I was happy to donate a year of my life as a young woman to help the poor Senegalese. I am not willing to donate my country.

https://www.americanthinker.com/.../what_i_learned_in...

National Association of Black Journalists


The National Association of Black Journalists in partnership with Facebook is looking for emerging journalists to participate in fact-checking fellowships in U.S. newsrooms. That should be interesting given that there are many black conservatives and their opinions and stories are being ridiculed or deep-sixed. Hey, kids, you dance with the one who brought you whether black, white, or other. 

It's interesting that in the article it is referred to as a "fact checking industry." What? Race baiting and woke poking are also industries--with a few at the top doing extremely well. Journalism is all about facts? I thought it was about opinion. Daily Beast and WaPo call their opinion rags "news." How about the fact that more blacks voted for Trump than any Republican in recent history? Or, maybe that blacks were opening and investing in their own businesses at an unprecedented rate under this president, or that lower income Americans benefitted at a higher rate from the Trump tax cuts than higher quintiles? What about "defund the police" with BLM hurting blacks more than other groups by ignoring crime? Think they'll give that story a fail just because there is a black fact checker on fellowship.

If we must have racial balance in all professions, how about NFL, NBA and MLB? I don't see enough Asians and women on those teams.

Tuesday, December 29, 2020

List of articles on Vitamin D and Covid19

 Role of vitamin D in preventing of COVID-19 infection, progression and severity - PubMed (nih.gov)

Plus 146 similar articles, 118 free access, others abstract only. 

The transgender cancel culture hoax

The transgender movement may be the biggest "cancel culture" of them all. And it's all to cancel women. Transman or transwoman, makes no difference. It all cancels women and their specialness. I had a really good friend who thought he was a woman--long before it became trendy. He was a Christian, slightly built, odd, quirky and incredibly bright. Now (or the last time I saw him 20 years ago) he says he's a woman--Christian, slightly built, odd, quirky and incredibly bright but wearing make-up and wearing women's clothing. It's also pretty convenient to cancel the homosexuals too, since most don't see themselves as a wannabe anything but what they are.

Some things to read on this hoax--although they don't actually say what I do--that the trans-movement is anti-women. That it is the ultimate anti-female snuff movement.









President Trump honors St. Thomas Becket

"St. Thomas Becket, also called Thomas à Becket or Thomas of London, (born c. 1118, Cheapside, London, England—died December 29, 1170, Canterbury, Kent; canonized 1173; feast day December 29), chancellor of England (1155–62) and archbishop of Canterbury (1162–70) during the reign of King Henry II. His career was marked by a long quarrel with Henry that ended with Becket’s murder in Canterbury Cathedral. He is venerated as a saint in the Roman Catholic Church and in the Anglican Communion." Saint Thomas Becket | Biography, Death, & Significance | Britannica

Breitbart News:  President Trump issued a powerful proclamation on religious liberty Tuesday to commemorate the 850th Anniversary of the Martyrdom of Saint Thomas Becket.

“A society without religion cannot prosper. A nation without faith cannot endure — because justice, goodness, and peace cannot prevail without the grace of God,” the president declared in his proclamation, while calling the English saint a “lion of religious liberty.”

President Trump: Justice Cannot Prevail ‘Without the Grace of God’ (breitbart.com) [note Google removed the hot link because it was Breitbart.]

Trump calls for end to 'religious persecution worldwide' on 850th anniversary of Thomas Becket's death (msn.com)

Monday, December 28, 2020

Worse than McCarthyism

"In a recent paper titled “Keeping Your Mouth Shut: Spiraling Self-Censorship in the United States,” political scientists James L. Gibson and Joseph L. Sutherland reveal that self-censorship among Americans has soared. In the 1950s, at the height of McCarthyism, 13.4 percent of Americans reported that they “felt less free to speak their mind than they used to.” In 1987, the figure reached 20 percent. By 2019, 40 percent of Americans reported that they did not feel free to speak their minds." Keeping Your Mouth Shut: Spiraling Self-Censorship in the United States by James L. Gibson, Joseph L. Sutherland :: SSRN

For more examples, see "Tell only lies" at City Journal. Tell Only Lies | City Journal (city-journal.org)

What is patriotism? Ask a Hungarian



I've been spending some hours away from American cable TV and watching Israeli i24 channel which has excellent international coverage, particularly of middle east and some Africa and Europe. Learned about the Moroccan delegation visiting Israel. Interesting to watch Covid coverage on the international scene. Every nation is having 2nd and 3rd waves, no one is blaming Trump like our TDS Democrats, and everyone is vaccinating. I think Israel will win that race for highest and fastest rate vaccinated. Israel's cases are soaring as are South Africa. Everyone complains about their young adults not taking precautions. It seems to be party time in South Africa. Not much difference between blacks and whites--both are being irresponsible according to the health official interviewed. I watched a 30 minute interview of the Hungarian foreign minister who seems to be a rising star in his early 40s; he's called "right wing." So I listened to see if that meant he was a Trump supporting white supremacist. No. It means he believes Hungary has a right to control its own borders; support for Christian values; strong economic investment environment; saving Hungary's western cultural heritage; standing up to the Leftists; being suspicious of Iran's motives; a positive relationship with Israel and being watchful of Turkey's motives and encroachment and loving his country. He wants mutual respect from Biden--fat chance, since Biden is soft on Iran and China.


Also, one of the Chinese "citizen-journalists" (I think that is another term for blogging or tweeting) who blew the whistle on the Chinese virus is getting 4 years in prison. Now, in the U.S. not since Obama have any journalists gone to jail, but there is a Facebook and YouTube jail for anyone who blows the whistle on the news media's monopoly on the virus narrative. And I love watching Israeli technology news. A new Israeli made mask might neutralize 99% SARS-COV2 virus within just 30 minutes. of exposure

Would a united Christian church bring us out of this mess?

It’s been suggested before. I don’t see for this time in history.

I was reading Erling Olsen’s meditation on Psalm 124 this morning which begins, “If it had not been the LORD who was on our side . . .” Olsen had a Sunday afternoon radio broadcast in the mid-1930s on the Psalms, which was so popular it was later published and has been through many printings. In 1937 he wrote:

“The entire world is now being swamped by a tidal wave of materialism and the hearts of many are filled with apprehension concerning the future.  The whole earth appears to be in a state of turmoil as some of the nations of the earth seem bent on war, while the unrest in other nations resembles a war scare.  It seems as if all the world is seated upon a keg of dynamite, with everybody playing around the keg with a lighted torch.”

He moves from the Depression era and war threats coming from Europe in 1937  back to ancient Israel and when it did not through its own power make it to the promised land, and that’s what Psalm 124 celebrates.

Than back to 1937.  It seemed, he said, that we had turned the corner, that we were on the road to prosperity (that wasn’t the case—the economy was heading for a recession with the Depression), but he lamented that men hadn’t ceased to be materialists and doubted they had learned any lessons.  One prominent Christian, very wealthy (he didn’t give his name) suggested that only a “united Christian world could stem the rising tide of materialism, of selfishness, of broken traditions and crumbling moral standards and point the way out.”  He lamented the failure of the church visible, with its sects, still clinging to its denominationalism “in a drifting, disillusioned, discouraged world which sees in the church confusion rather than hope.”

That certainly describes the church today, so I’m thinking the proposal of that rich and influential Christian didn’t work. Olsen goes on to say, . .

“I wholeheartedly endorse the comments which that gentleman made and I agree with him that the world is on the brink of disaster as its very foundations are being shaken.  I agree with him that the only thing for the church today is to bear a united testimony, so that she may be a bulwark against the raging storm.  But let me be clear.  There can be no united Christian church except it be founded on a solid rock.. . . I am wholeheartedly for Christian unity if that unity is based on the deity of Christ, on the impregnable rock of Holy Write, on the cardinal truth of the Christian faith revealed at the cross of Jesus Christ which towers ‘o’er the wrecks of time.’ I am for unity of the Christian church in bearing an effectual testimony to a world of moral failure when it invites the individual members of society to come to the ‘fountain filled with blood, drawn from Immanuel’s veins,’ . . . What power the Christian church would have in this world if it would give faithful testimony concerning these verities of our faith.”

The church is no more united now than 80+ years ago. And during our present national and world crisis, it seems to have closed its doors and settled for the title, “non-essential.” Although individual congregations went to court to keep their doors open, most just quietly folded and turned to their technology staff, if they had one. A few used their parking lots and speaker systems.  Various religious voices brightly proclaim the church is moving into the community via technology like Zoom, Facebook, Tik Tok and on-line services, but I hardly think that replaces the hundreds of ministries that have closed which evangelize, feed, clothe, build, educate and visit the millions who need the church.

Olsen suggested that in the 1930s the failure of the church was the responsibility of those that have not been faithful to the Gospel of Christ, who have undermined faith in the scriptures and stripped Jesus of his Glory bringing him down to a life devoted to a principle.  That Jesus can transform lives and is not a mere social message is a message lost in today’s (1937) world, he said. That might be part of it, but I know some Bible-believing, gospel preaching churches that were just too comfortable and lukewarm to Stand up for Jesus. They looked to the government, to science, to social media and the confusing advice of the experts to see them through.   Prayer, worship, fasting, service—well, they can wait on a vaccine, or a new president, or a less virulent mutation while we hunker down in our homes.

Sunday, December 27, 2020

UV-LED lights kill coronavirus.

UV-LED disinfection of Coronavirus: Wavelength effect – ScienceDirect   Journal of Photochemistry and Photobiology B: Biology

This study shows promise in disinfection for Covid19. The study attempted to find the disinfection efficiency of ultraviolet light-emitting diodes irradiation at different wavelengths or frequencies on coronavirus. It is said to be the first of its kind in the world, according to the Jerusalem Post.

UV LED lights kill 99% of COVID in 30 seconds, new study - TheBlaze

Saturday, December 26, 2020

Temperature and humidity and Covid

There is some research to show that higher humidity levels can help fight the Coronavirus in your indoor spaces. Op-ed: Humidity can aid in the fight against COVID-19 | News | Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health

There could be 3 reasons for this: Studies suggest that

  1. higher humidity can enhance the body’s ability to fight off infection;
  2. that the coronavirus decays faster at close to 60% relative humidity than at other levels;
  3. and that drier air can lead to greater numbers of tiny coronavirus particles that travel farther and penetrate deeper into the lungs.

I’ve never had much luck with humidifiers, however, we have stopped running the fans when we take a shower and  don’t wipe down the water from the tile and glass doors.  I leave the door open to the hall when I shower.  It’s a small amount, to be sure, but right now it’s OK to steam up the mirror.

Also, the new case load and death rate from Covid is also affected by the temperature and humidity of the country, as research has found, and could be important for policy.  In the U.S., however, it is just easier to blame President Trump. Effects of temperature and humidity on the daily new cases and new deaths of COVID-19 in 166 countries - PubMed (nih.gov)

Blueberry French Toast Casserole

About 2 decades ago, before I started saving everything at my blog, I was searching for the perfect bread pudding recipe—like my mom made from leftover bread. I missed her and wanted that special taste for a memory.   And I wrote about it.  I found some good ones, but never the exact match because she probably didn’t use a recipe.

This recipe was posted by a guy friend, Brian Good, on Facebook.  But the website had a gazillion ads, and I couldn’t read the directions.  So I looked it up by name on a different site.  It says it is great for brunch or dessert. This one has slightly fewer eggs and cream cheese than the one I saw posted on FB. By soaking the bread overnight, it becomes more of a souffle or a bread pudding. The cream cheese gets creamy and the blueberries add a bit of sweetness and tartness at the same time. Hope you enjoy it! Blueberry French Toast Casserole | Tasty Kitchen: A Happy Recipe Community!

Ingredients
  • 1 loaf Texas Toast Or Thick Cut Bread, Cubed (French Toast Style Also Works)
  • 12 ounces, weight Cream Cheese, Cubed (Any Kind Other Than Fat Free)
  • 1 cup Blueberries, Fresh
  • 8 whole Eggs
  • 2 cups Milk
  • ½ cups Maple Syrup
  • Cinnamon, To Taste
  • Nutmeg, To Taste
  • ½ cups Pecans, Chopped (optional)
Preparation

Place the bread cubes in a greased 13×9-inch baking dish; add blueberries and cream cheese evenly throughout the bread cubes.

Beat eggs, milk, cinnamon, nutmeg and syrup with a wire whisk until well blended. Pour over the ingredients in the baking dish; cover. Refrigerate overnight.

Preheat oven to 375°F.

Bake, uncovered, for 35 minutes. Add the pecans if desired, then bake for an additional 10 minutes or until the center is set. Serve with additional syrup, if desired.

If you are making this recipe for dessert, forego the maple syrup and serve with whipped cream.

Enjoy!

Luke and Laura's 40th anniversary coming up in 2021!

 Can't believe I'm that old.  Genie Francis and Anthony Geary (Luke and Laura), two soap opera stars whose characters married in 1981 will be at the big 40 in the New Year, November 17.  I only know that because my daughter watched this SOAP, General Hospital, and so I watched it, too.  She was probably in 8th grade.  But what was my excuse?

Luke and Laura Today: Where the ‘General Hospital’ Stars Are Now | Heavy.com

"Luke and Laura’s wedding on November 17, 1981 brought in 30 million viewers and remains the highest-rated soap opera episode in American daytime television history. Elizabeth Taylor cameoed during the event, and Princess Diana even sent champagne."

Geary's retired and living in the Netherlands, and Francis still performs at 57 on the soap as a mother.  I think I've seen her in other venues, maybe even Hallmark movies?  Genie Francis as Peyton MacGruder on Taking a Chance on Love (hallmarkdrama.com)

Facebook can’t face the truth

Zuckerberg and his wife supported Biden/Harris big time, funneling mega-bucks for training poll workers and campaigners.  And we all know how that campaign fraud went.  However, it is technically free, and those of us who use it need to know the only product FB sells is us—our information.  Personal information about buying habits, religion, politics, opinions, photos—it’s all consumed and regurgitation by Facebook to buy and sell us. 

But Facebook is also pushing it’s own politics, and will blacklist our posts that they don’t like.  I’m reposting some of my blogs at my Facebook site, and they all come up with a warning—even if it is a recipe or a holiday tradition. FB by technical snooping knows I’m not one of them.  I’m just some deranged, low class, low caste college educated American who escaped the clutches of the Democrat party in 2000 for fresh air, liberation and truth.  There are a lot of us out there—every ethnicity, age, sex, religion—black, brown, white, rich, poor, employed, retired, Protestant, Jew, Muslim, Catholic. The U.S. capitalist system with freedom of religion and the religion of meritocracy has allowed Zuckerberg to arise to the heights of success, but he landed on a dead branch of socialism and is trying to clip the wings of others.  Ironically, it’s the capitalist way. Always kill off the competition.

I got a black mark for pointing out the racism and eugenics of the Leftists among us. I got a black mark for citing Newsmax, a conservative TV News source. I got a black mark for posting a an AA list on how to stay sober just for today. So I’m embedded in the the FB file dungeons as a right wing nut, no matter if I post recipes or voter fraud stories.

I have a lot of cookbooks and recipe files—some almost 100 years old, from my mom and mother-in-law to Inglenook to Betty Crocker to a collection from Ogle County Illinois homemakers.  But there are more people who have come forward to testify about voter irregularities at the polls, from the cemeteries  and from voting machines than I have recipes.  All those patriots are willing to put their reputations (and lives) on the line, and they’ve been silenced by the very government and political parties they want to save.

Friday, December 25, 2020

Sonja loves snow

She was hoping for a white Christmas and she got one. We get very little snow in central Ohio, and only rarely on Christmas, but we had about 3 inches by 10 p.m. last night.  Sonja got her wish.  Our lights on our deck outside are buried, but muted.  And she’s thinking about her friends Ann and Phil.  Annie died of kidney cancer in February, and our Phil died of glioblastoma, brain cancer, in April. Sonja is in recovery from breast cancer.  As children they were all members of UALC, and their parents all are friends or ours.   Sonja spoke at Phil’s service in June at Gender Road Christian Church.

"It is so quiet and peaceful. . .what a blessed Christmas Eve, even as I have a few tears as I am sending love to my Annie and Phil in Heaven. Annie would be loving this snowfall, and Phil would be loving his Christmas tree.

Thank you God for this white Christmas, my soul needed it. . . kinda makes me want to dig out my little tree, and put it up, instead of continuing to bah humbug the festivities, but honestly, not decorating the inside of my house has kept me focused on the reason for the season, and I know it sounds strange, but it has made it really special to me."  (Facebook post, Dec. 25, 2020)  Photo is Phil and Sonja in February showing off their hair after chemo.

And yesterday, Christmas Eve, we also got a call from Keith, a friend of Phil's who has been under the weather with that nasty virus we've all been trying to avoid. He's almost completely recovered now. He was wonderful support for Phil and us when he was ill, and spoke at both the GRCC service in June and at Lakeside interment of ashes in August.


Keith and Phil in February

Thursday, December 24, 2020

Christmas cards—a nice tradition

For the last two years I haven't added a newsy letter to Bob's Christmas card--a watercolor with a greeting. Our lives changed forever on Oct. 1, 2019, so there is not much to write about for Christmas 2019 and 2020.   And the cards we've been receiving mostly say something like, "stay well," "stay safe," stay safe and well," Hope you staying safe," or "Hope we can see each other soon." A very different holiday, but we certainly look forward to hearing from friends and relatives. This year we’ve received some phone calls in place of cards—don’t recall that from years past.  Maybe 5 or 6.

And one said, “From the Left coast” and he reads my blog!

This is an earlier version of his card, but he added more snow and a Christmas tree when it became this year’s “winner.”  I didn't take a photo of the finished product.




Just for Today Bookmark found in a book

When I checked online there were several different versions of this “anonymous” card with challenging thoughts.  I must have picked mine up over 30 years ago (it’s orange), and it has been lodged in various books, diaries and drawers since.  So I took another look today. It’s called “working a program.” I’ve italicized (#4, #8) the ones I have no problem with—piece of cake to spend 30 minutes to an hour in the morning usually, with something inspirational (right now it’s Magnificat, but I’ve used other sources). And no problem strengthening my mind—I am not a mental loafer. I read, research and write possibly 5-6 hours a day.   But the rest?  No success, but then I haven’t actually been trying the other 7.  I hate to set goals or make lists, so that’s part of it.  Also I don’t like other people telling me what to do, when, and how—probably why my diets fail after a few weeks.  And this Just for Today bookmark  is something that tells me I’m not doing it the right way to satisfy someone else. 
The biggest challenge for me is #6:

Just for today I will be agreeable.

I will look as well as I can,

dress becomingly,

keep my voice low,

be courteous,

criticize not one bit.

I won't find fault with anything,

nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.

No problem with “look as well as I can or dress becomingly.”  Always have my make-up on and completely dressed for the day in something attractive before my feet hit the first floor (in shoes, not slippers) in the morning. But the rest?  NO. I doubt I could go 5 minutes. And if you are nodding your head, then you probably have the same problem!  You wish I would change!! Some of us, and we know who we are, just can’t resist finding a better way to do something or improve something—or someone. We seem to gravitate to social media, too.

Just For Today Card

A popular sobriety aid is the Just for Today card that some AA [Al-Anon, Families Anonymous, Overeaters anonymous] members carry in their pocket or purse and refer to when thinking of a drink or they are disturbed by a life event.

Just for today

  1. - Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
  2. - Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.
  3. - Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my luck as it comes, and fit myself to it.
  4. - Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
  5. - Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don't want to do just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
  6. - Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
  7. - Just for today I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.
  8. - Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
  9. - Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.