It is not the correct thing

are little items that comes from my grandmother's book, The Correct Thing in Good Society, by Florence Howe Hall, c1902 (daughter of Julia Ward Howe). These guide and manner books were very popular in the 19th and 20th century, with about 5 or 6 new ones published each year. Writing and etiquette guides are still popular today, particularly as people struggle with new technology. Some of this advice holds up in cyberspace, the mall, the airplane or the office. The page on the left had the correct thing, the one on the right, the incorrect. It is not the correct thing

to be quick to take offence where one is not recognized, since elderly, near-sighted or absent minded people often fail to observe those whom they meet

to carry bandboxes, bird-cages, newspaper bundles, growing plants, or more than one basket or numerous package of any sort when travelling

for young ladies to enter into conversation with or accept favors from strangers, especially if these by young men

to tread on other people's feet or deposit baskets or bundles on them

to be untidy and careless, as if one were a royal personage on whom domestics would never tire of waiting

to look down upon your parents, because they know less Latin and Greek than you or are ignorant of modern science, forgetting that they stand high in a school on the threshold of which you have set your foot--the school of life

for the women, when newly admitted to a male institution, to ask for unnecessary innovations or to interfere with time-honored customs

for employees to talk to each other while customers are awaiting their attention

to let the door of a shop slam in the face of another person

to buy very cheap goods presumably made up in sweat shops, thus endangering one's own health or even life, as well as helping to perpetuate a cruel system of human slavery