Thursday, October 20, 2005

1639 Women, do you do this?

Do you expect everyone else to adjust to your schedule so you can work, or do community service or golf and be a mommy too? My husband is on jury duty this week. It's an important case--murder. They could have finished up today. All the evidence has been heard and the jury is in deliberation and the alternates have been dismissed. One morning one of the women was late arriving--problem with the kids--so they had to wait. Today, one of the women announced she'd have to leave at 3:30 because she had to pick up her kids. So the entire jury has to go back tomorrow, when they could've finished up today. This is disrespectful of everyone involved--the victim, the victim's family, the defendant, the State of Ohio and the other jurors. If she does this on jury duty, I'm betting she does this in meetings at work. I was on a jury two years ago, and I thought a couple of the jurors were as dumb as a box of rocks, but no one was disrespectful of the process.

And one woman brought along her portable TV so she wouldn't miss her soaps on her lunch hour. Another brought in a huge brief case of work from the office, but of course, was never able to open it. I think it's called a "look at me I'm important" bag.

In the 70s and 80s I cobbled together work schedules so I could be home when my children were, and took the corresponding pay and promotion cuts. My mantra is, you can have it all, but not all at the same time. During all those years I got one call for jury duty and asked to be excused because the kids were more important than my civic duty which if you are a registered voter will come around again. And again. Don't run that poor working mother by me--these women were professionals. If you think this is harsh, you haven't heard me on daddies who leave their families for a new sweetie.

2 comments:

Cathy said...

It amazes me of what goes on in today's world. I have no idea how young this woman's children were, but I have, when my kids were younger, been excused because I had very young children. I am not convinced that these folks had no one else to pick up the kids.

I have brought a book to read during jury duty while waiting for them to pick a jury. But once you are on a jury, I always thought you dropped everything and focused on the trial at hand. It's only fair to the larger community.....
My 2 cents worth...
Cathy

Susan said...

I don't know about the jury duty rule regarding young children. My friend had a nursing six- month old at home and still had to serve. I thought she had tried to get out of her service because of that and couldn't.

I do agree that a mother's kids come first, but when you commit to additional things, you must focus on the task at hand.