Sunday, November 03, 2019

A couples retreat

Believe it or not—I found this at a blog on a dairy site. I was reading an article on Oreo-Cowkies—Dutch Belted cattle—and noticed at the bottom there was a blog.   She bases her information and comments on the book “The One Thing.”

“When was the last time you sat down with your spouse without the TV on, without notifications on the phone buzzing nearby, with the kids in bed (or not home at all) and talked about any of the following:”

  • What steps do we want to take to improve our spiritual life?
  • How can we improve our eating habits?
  • Do each of us get enough “me time” to decompress and destress?
  • Is our marriage headed in the right direction?
  • Do we support one another in front of our children?
  • Do we need to think about helping aging parents?
  • Are there any specific people we would like to get to know better this year?
  • How often should we set money aside, and where should we put it?
  • Have we reviewed our household budget?
  • What causes are we passionate about?
  • Do we feel useful in our work?
  • What are the ultimate goals for the business?
  • What are the key habits we want to develop this year as a family and as individuals?

When you’ve been married 60 years and your son has terminal brain cancer, somehow, none of the questions seem worth answering.  We’re eating poorly, our goals are to get to the end of the day, and there is no way to destress, even the tried and true like exercise (we both go to the fitness center).   And I have the feeling I’m going to continue to meet a lot of people I didn’t know before October 1.  However, my spiritual life is definitely improving—I spend more time in the Bible and reading theologians than I ever did.

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