Thursday, April 13, 2006

2375 Marriages in the news today

These days with gay marriages and heterosexual serial marriages and over-blended families, it seems a bit hypercritical and hypocritical to condemn wayward Mormons for polygamy (USAToday). Fifty wives may seem strange to us now, but 40 or 50 years ago--or even 10--you would have had difficulty convincing the general public that you weren’t smoking something if you’d suggested we’d be considered homophobic if we objected to gay marriage or adoption. Or that we’d be watching on national TV (Dr. Phil) a counselor advising two lesbians about their child rearing practices when one was pregnant by the other’s husband.

And then there's the advice letter in the WSJ that begins: “We are a dual-earner couple with a blended family of three children from previous marriages. All attend an after-school program.”

In this case, the husband is siding with his ex-wife who doesn’t want the children left at home alone, as his current wife prefers since one of HER children doesn’t like the program.

Don’t you believe it that things will improve for a step-family. Stats show you need to wait until your children are grown and out of the house to remarry. After you have children, it's not about you anymore. Don't get mad at me; I'm just the bearer of bad news.


CJ said...

I don't know if I agree with you on this point, but I can see where you are coming from. My son has never known me as anything BUT his primary parent until I married (for the first time) when he was five. We have our struggles and we have our growing pains, but our family works and we're all happy and well-adjusted.

espresso bean said...

Hello Norma!

Where are these "stats" you speak of that show people should wait until their children are "grown and out of the house to remarry?"

BTW - this is no hot button for me. I have no children. But I'm especially curious where you found evidence of what you claim.